Try to work so you will be able to live your life in tranquility. -Ronaldo (from the documentary 'happy')
Work to live, not live to work, that is sage advice. Personally, I put in a great number of hours at my job. That gives me the opportunity to take a month off and see the world. I know the media says, 'work hard, and you will be able to reach for the stars.' That is how news anchors, television and movie actors, professional athletes, ect... get to where they are. We think we want to be that, to have a great deal of money and fame, that will make us happy? I guess we get to chose what makes us happy and work toward it. I can work more, and thus vacation more, or work less, and maybe enjoy everyday life more. We have a choice, and that is???
As children we really enjoyed playing, and finding others to play with. This was important for us. As adults, we do not have this luxury. We need to provide for ourselves and those around us. And, we still want to play. I find that most of us do seem to work a lot, in order to provide food, shelter, entertainment, and travel. This can be at the expense of time spent with family and friends. I know I have touched on this before, but it is always good to talk about. I see the "tiny house" living style, and get a taste of change in importance of things and time spent. If a person lived in a warm climate, how much time would need to be spent inside. Possibly just to cook, and even that can be done outside, and to sleep. Heck, I did the later outside in Thailand, and it was the best hostel experience I have ever had. Woke up to the fresh morning air, with chickens making noise in the background. Now, back here, I work overtime on a constant basis, usually around 48 hours per week. I am grateful for it, as it is how I afford my house, and this life in general. But, it makes me wonder if it is how this life is meant to be lived. While staying at that hostel, I met people from all over the globe. It really was amazing, to get to sit in Thailand, and hear 3 people speaking German to each other, and they were not even all from Germany. I believe that was important. There is a lot of things out there we can enjoy, it is our opportunity to figure out what is important. :)
What are we made up of? We are a great deal of small particles, that form atoms, that form molecules, that..... We are something, and we are something impressive. We have substance. When you are hungry, you want something a little more than a rice cake, you want substance. When you hear a lecture, you want pertinent information, not just a lot of big words put together to look smart. When you read a cook book you want somewhat precise instructions on how to make whatever it is you want to make. Not just, a little of this, and a little of that.
When you are forming friendships and relationships with people, you want them to be of substance. Many people enjoy the time spent, and conversations had, with friends or just acquaintances.They may have a familiar background, or even just an interesting background. Maybe they grew up in another country, and their life was fairly different, but you can relate to good times had, times with family, and heartache. They have loved, and been loved. They had a good friend in school too, that they lost touch with. We can be so different, yet so alike. People that have experience can provide us with insight to our ever changing lives. And, we get to return the favor. Show respect, do not be afraid of who you are and where you have been. Let yourself be open to talking with someone new. Some education, you cannot get in a classroom.
Real people with real feelings are all around us. They walk by us on the sidewalk, they are getting into their car as we are getting out of ours. You see them in front of you when in any type of line. Then there are those who put on what is referred to as a "plastic smile". I call it the Cheshire cat smile, because that is exactly what it looks like. I have had a realtor and a used car salesman with this very affliction. When they would stop talking, they would immediately smile widely for some odd reason. I remember them, and do not trust them. Life is a rat race, and sales is probably the most difficult of all of it. Putting trust in someone we do not know is difficult. My personal thought on this, is to trust those that are humble, that tell it like it is, and do not sugar coat everything. This can be in any facet of life, from your child's friends, to your boss. We have to live with people that are Cheshire cats, but we also have a choice on what to believe, and what not to believe. Then we can act accordingly, and ask For Gods grace to handle any situation involving them wisely. And, when it comes to sales, support the one that is honest about things, and probably having a difficult time selling because of it.
There are so many things to deal with on a day to day basis, and life just seems so complicated. We deal with relationships, financial issues, being secure about the future. It all creates stress. To live a stress free life sounds so good, but how do you even come close to getting there. To even just deal with stressful parts of life better, and let them roll off of your back, that is a blessing. I believe we handle things good on some days, and not so good on other days. The days I am striving to be better, it is because my mind is full of anxiety. It takes tolerating things that irritate me, to just get through them. Sometimes it works out, and sometimes it doesn't. I have the days when, I wish I wouldn't have said that. It is then too late, and it is out there. Being the silent type sounds appealing to me, it just isn't me. Anyone else have similar struggles?
People in the United States are truly blessed to have so much wealth and opportunity available. I wonder what being in poverty really means here, as I work in a poor neighborhood, and so many poor people still have TV's and cars. My thoughts are that in India or Africa, our poor would be their middle to upper middle class. I could be wrong, as I have not travelled to those countries. Do you believe we should try to help people from other countries to get another meal, and maybe get some type of roof over their head? In the US and abroad, is there a way to get jobs created so people can work? I believe there is value in being without a lot of money, money can create stress. Having food and shelter is what we all need. Many of these countries have generations of family members under one roof. They have a strong family. The wealth in the US has killed much of this for us, making us independent of one another. We are rich in money, but poor in community. I am guilty of all of this, having a big house all to myself. Having to work extra to pay the mortgage. It seems like even though I have means, I have to go to my church or other places to get community, instead of it just being here when I get home. *Thoughts?* This is just what I thought up today, life is really good, and the sun is shining. :).
My friends and family know that there is one thing I am not a big fan of, too much stuff. The truth is, I walk into a virtually empty house, and it feels right. I appreciate the minimalist side of society, I think it is a mindset that veers away from the American dream, and is a part of the Worlds way. We are definitely blessed in this country to be given the opportunity to have such large amounts of space to live in, and plots of land to live on. With this we acquire machines to take care of it, and toys to play on it. This is a really great thing, until we have to take care of it all, and find we do not have the time to use the toys because the yard needs to be taken care of first. Being minimalist is something I strive for constantly, trying to get rid of what I do not need. This will make life so much easier when I eventually move from this house. And, I have this fantasy of living out of a back pack for a while. Could you do it? How would it feel to have virtually nothing? Would it be inconvenient most of the time, or freeing most of the time? Any thoughts would really be appreciated? Thanks so much for reading this guys!!
What do you want to do with your life? Do you want to rock? :) Someone was talking to me about this yesterday, we do not want to wake up one day and say I wish I had...... What could you start today that would be a part of your bucket list. It does not have to be so outlandish and difficult. Have you ever wanted to learn another language, how about learning an instrument? All of these are really possible, especially with the internet. If you have the desire, start looking at it today. I picked up piano almost 3 years ago, and love it! I am not great at it by any means, but what I can play I really enjoy. :) What do you want to write off of that bucket list? tryingtofly.net
This may get a little heavy, and it should. There was a time when my life fell apart, and I was truly lost. I was sober, and I had everything I had ever wanted. But something happened, and I became irritated at everything around me, and the fiancé' I had, said goodbye, and I was lost. My path began to lead me more and more toward learning about the religion I had been given when somebody told me about Substance Church. I began to read and actually study the Bible more in depth, began to know what it was saying.
One of the most important things I have learned is to live in this world, but not for this world. To point your thoughts, prayers, and actions toward Heaven, hoping that after death I will get to join the Lord. When I am able to do this, I worry a lot less about things. It is important to be responsible with this life, but worrying over what we cannot change is only hurting us further. When things change at my job, and I think something bad will happen, I can either fret about it, or go to work tomorrow and be thankful that I have another day there. And if I lost it, to trust that God will lead me to another job. To just know we can share our experiences with others, and live this life the best we can, and pray that we will be with Him. It is really all we need.
I believe we all have things we are patient with, and things we are absolutely NOT patient with. And I believe these change over a period of time. My thoughts have to tie in with something I was very recently talking about with a group. When I feel close to my Higher Power, I find it extremely easy to not worry about what is next, knowing everything will be okay. I can let a customer at work rant. Am able to sit in traffic and just be there knowing it is what it is. Can read someones negative facebook post, and just be okay. When I turn my head to what God is showing me and wants me to do, my will takes over. Anxiety replaces thoughtful reflection, and things become more difficult. I will be honest, as I write this, I have been much better in the past than I am right now. I have good moments, where once I had good days. I was living in the Word of God, and less in the world, so what happened here only mattered as to what I could do about it, and the rest I was able to let go of. Living and worrying about what happens in this world only leads to depression. People thrive on negativity, it is a dead end road. Be loving to those around you today, even if they make a mistake. That is patient and kind. Please share your experience with patience, or your lack of. Let others know that they are not alone when anxiety and worry take over.
Things I will share about: Divorce, not seeing my son, alcoholism, codependency, jealousy, anxiety, Love, God, spirituality, success, exercise, nutrition, and I am sure to come up with more. Lets talk!